10 Sobering Lessons on Life and Leadership w/ Remy Blumenfeld | Lost and Searching EP1
Remy Blumenfeld is a coach, Forbes contributor, and multiple-time business executive who sold his companies to some of the biggest players in the film industry. He now coaches leaders in the creative industries, and shares with us 10 of his most sobering lessons on life and leadership.
In the debut episode of Lost & Searching, Remy Blumenfeld, a leadership coach and Forbes contributor, shares 10 profound lessons on life and leadership that every leader should consider. From navigating failure to aligning your actions with your values, Remy’s wisdom stems from years of personal and professional experience. These lessons are not just about leadership in business, but also about living authentically and without regret.
1. Starting Amidst Endless Choices
With so many paths in life, it’s easy to feel lost. Remy emphasizes the need to first understand your core values. Once you know what truly matters, decision-making becomes clearer. His advice is to start small, but with a focus on what aligns with your deepest sense of purpose.
2. Living Life Without Regrets
A recurring theme in Remy’s life is living without regret. Too often, people make decisions based on fear—fear of failure, of judgment, or of the unknown. But Remy teaches us that failure is a necessary part of growth and should never be something we fear or shy away from. Instead, we should view failure as a guide, leading us toward better decisions and a more fulfilling life.
3. Commitment Without Attachment
One of the most thought-provoking lessons Remy shares is the importance of commitment without attachment. Committing to a cause or a goal doesn’t mean becoming rigidly attached to the outcome. If you remain open to change, you’ll be more resilient when things don’t go as planned, allowing for new opportunities and solutions to emerge.
4. The Dangers of Weak Commitments
A weak “yes” can be far more damaging than a strong “no.” Remy reminds us that integrity in our commitments is essential, both in business and in life. Saying yes to something that doesn’t align with your values dilutes your energy and prevents you from pursuing what truly matters.
5. Leading by Getting Out of Your Own Way
Often, the biggest obstacle to success is ourselves. We get in our own way with self-doubt, fear, and limiting beliefs. Remy encourages leaders to overcome these internal barriers and believe they belong at the table. Whether in business or life, self-confidence shapes how others perceive and respond to you.
6. Avoid the Rescuer Mentality
As a leader, it’s tempting to jump in and fix others’ problems. However, Remy explains that being a “rescuer” prevents others from learning valuable lessons on their own. Instead, effective leaders empower others to find their own solutions, fostering growth and independence.
7. Enrolment Over Selling
True leadership is about enrolment, not selling. Remy distinguishes between these two approaches: selling feels like pushing a product or idea, while enrolment is about inspiring others to join you in a shared vision. This distinction is critical for any leader looking to create real, lasting engagement.
8. Say No to Weak Yeses
One of Remy’s most powerful lessons is the importance of saying no to weak yeses. If you’re not fully committed to a project, it’s better to decline than to offer half-hearted support. This ensures you’re dedicating your energy and time to the things that truly matter.
9. Your Beliefs Shape Your Reality
Remy reminds us that whether we believe we deserve success or not, we’re right. Leaders who see themselves as deserving of success are more likely to achieve it. Your beliefs directly shape the reality you create.
10. Success Requires Downtime
In a culture obsessed with hustle, Remy offers a refreshing reminder: sometimes doing nothing is the most productive thing you can do. Original thinkers understand the value of rest and reflection, and they recognize that stepping away from work can lead to breakthroughs and clarity.
Final Thoughts: Remy Blumenfeld’s 10 lessons are a powerful reminder that leadership is not just about achieving success; it’s about living authentically, with purpose and integrity. Whether you’re an entrepreneur, a manager, or someone seeking personal growth, these insights offer valuable guidance on how to lead yourself and others effectively.
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RESOURCE from Remy - "What is your Why?" -https://community.thriveglobal.com/wh...
RESOURCE from Remy - Visualise where you're at right now with his Wheel of Life tool: https://www.vitality.guru/wheel-of-life/
RESOURCE from Remy - Connect with your future Self to get insights into making decisions with more clarity and certainty: https://www.vitality.guru/future-self...
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